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Post by KChris18 on Feb 5, 2007 9:05:42 GMT -5
If you love somebody with all your heart. Should it matter what the age difference is? I don't think that it should. As long as you do not intend to hurt that special person, I believe that you should be allowed to love. I say this because it is happening to me. I love someone very much, but her parents do not approve of it in any way because she is younger than me. She says she loves me also and wants to marry me, but her parents have cut off any source of communication between us. I want to talk to her and see her but now i can't. What do you think is the right? Should you be aloud to communicate with the person that you love no matter what the age, or should it be forbidden?
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Post by FF7 on Feb 5, 2007 17:03:29 GMT -5
I believe that you can love who ever you like, whatever your age. But as long is it sensible. Not like 35 and a 17 year old. That would be just wrong and quite perverted. I know it is not fair because as far as you know it has happened to me, it is a real tear jerker and pulls your heart strings really badly. It is not fair I know.
Perhaps if she would convince her Parent's that everything is fine between you and her would make things a little easy. They are just being protective and it is not fair I know. They could check up on you two for a few moments and they could see what is going on but you probably do not want that at all, especially if you both love each other.
It should not be forbidden. One day when she is older, she might date someone who is much younger than her. I wish I could clear it up but I cannot. Try and see what happens and give us updates if you wish.
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Post by KChris18 on Feb 5, 2007 17:39:19 GMT -5
No, she is going on 14 this year. I have talked to her quite a bit and she has told me she loves me and wants to marry me. I love her a lot but her parents have taken her internet away so now she must sneak on to talk to me. I sent her my phone number, but i realized a little bit ago that if she calls me, it would show up on her bill. It is legal for her to date who she wants at the age of 16.
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Post by Sabrina on Feb 5, 2007 21:01:09 GMT -5
Kchris, no age should not limit love. I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17 and I haven't told my parents for fear they will forbid us together. I love him with all my heart though.
However, true love is not something you find at age 14, expecially since she's not even 14 yet. If you are really 18 as your profile says then you might truely be in love with her but I doubt she really knows what love is. Has she even had a real boyfriend before? Take it from someone who thought she was in love at an early age, she isn't. I was used (I'm not saying you're using her because it seems like you love her a lot) but she's young, and most likey clueless.
Try taking things slowly. Tell her only to sneak online when she REALLY wants to talk to you so she doesn't get into trouble. The less sneaking you and her do the more her parents will trust you. Good luck with this though. I know it's not easy.
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Post by KChris18 on Feb 6, 2007 0:41:34 GMT -5
She cannot get online at her house. She goes over her brothers and he lets her get online. She has had a few boyfriends before me but she said she did not like them much.
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Post by FF7 on Feb 6, 2007 15:34:40 GMT -5
Sabrina is right. I have not got a Boyfriend but my friend whom is 16 now, is dating an 18 Year old. Her Mother was fine with it once she had met him and she had grew quite fond of him. When they'd have a bit of an arguement, her Mother would shake her head to it, because he is such a nice friendly person.
But I guess it is not as easy as that. Especially if you are Internet Lovers. The age of 14 is very early, just like Sabrina said. She is only just sprouting and yet you may have experienced more than her. She can be very vunerable and may be desperate to talk to you.
I would let everything go smooth and once everything has calmed down, her Parent's may think she has forgotton you, and may give her access again.
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Post by Sabrina on Feb 6, 2007 22:12:45 GMT -5
I agree with Hannah, just slow things down a little. You've got all the time in the world until she turns 16 anways
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Post by KChris18 on Feb 7, 2007 7:44:33 GMT -5
I know, i have told her that i am willing to wait until she turns 16 to see her in person. She is actually more mature than most 14 years old. When i first met her, I had thought she was around 16 or 17 until she told me her age after we fell in love.
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Post by FF7 on Feb 7, 2007 13:07:47 GMT -5
I think Sabrina is right. You do have all the time in the World and I think is it really special to dedicate yourself like that. As long as you both stay strong to each other, then perhaps you will meet.
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Post by Sabrina on Feb 7, 2007 21:17:24 GMT -5
If she's willing to wait for you like you are her then I don't think you'll have any problem. Good luck to both of you; sometimes it's hard to be patient.
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Post by KChris18 on Feb 8, 2007 1:49:50 GMT -5
She tells me that she is willing to wait for me. I believe her.
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Post by FF7 on Feb 8, 2007 15:31:59 GMT -5
Then that is good. You both seem very strong towards each other. I believe you will meet. I just hope her Parent's are ok about it when the time does come. But she should be old enough, I'm not sure.
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Post by Sabrina on Feb 8, 2007 22:14:06 GMT -5
You too do seem to love each other very much. If you keep things that way I'm sure you'll be together in the end
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Post by KChris18 on Feb 9, 2007 0:16:56 GMT -5
I'm sure we will also, she lives in North Carolina and the law there states that you are aloud to date who you wish at the age of 16.
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Post by FF7 on Feb 9, 2007 4:08:12 GMT -5
Then that is alright then. I do not think there is a Law over here for dating. People date over here at the age of 12, which I think...is er really stupid as they're just kids. There is a Law over here that you cannot have Sex over here till your 16, and if you do, the Boy would most likely get in trouble for it. I'm not sure. Your not aloud to drink till your 18 over here either.
I went shopping with my Mother and Sister last night, we went into the Supermarket, got a Trolly as you do and we made our way to the Wine Section as my Mother thought of buying some Wine. She gave one to me to hold as she was looking on the Shelves for something that could be better and I looked up, and on the Ceiling, hanging from String had a Circular Banner saying, 'Smile, Your On Camera!'
My Mum looked and quickly took it from me, she was laughing. I thought it was quite funny too. She was like "I can't let you hold that, they'll think your buying it!"
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